The Value of Singleness: A Singles Sermon Guide for Pastors

Table for One Ministries • October 15, 2024

The church often emphasizes marriage and family life as the pinnacle of Christian living, leaving singles feeling like they’re in a waiting period until they can fully participate. However, the Bible offers a different perspective—one that values singleness as a gift from God. This “Singles Sermon Guide for Pastors” seeks to shift the focus from marriage as the goal to singleness as a purposeful and valuable stage of life.

Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 7:7, “I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.” Paul’s singleness allowed him to serve God fully, without the distractions of marriage. This perspective is rarely discussed in church sermons, but it offers a profound message for single adults.

Over 50% of U.S. adults are single, and the average age for first marriages continues to rise (29 for men, 27 for women). As this demographic grows, the church has a unique opportunity to minister to singles in meaningful ways. However, this requires a shift in focus—from seeing singleness as a transitional phase to viewing it as a God-given season of life with its own purpose.

The church needs to recognize the value of singles and include them in every area of ministry. Singles bring unique gifts and perspectives that can enrich the church community. Biblical examples such as Jesus, Paul, and Nehemiah show that singleness is not a limitation but a calling. These individuals lived productive, faithful lives, fully devoted to God’s work.

This “Singles Sermon Guide for Pastors” encourages church leaders to highlight the value of singleness from the pulpit. Preaching on the gift of singleness can help singles feel valued and empowered to serve in leadership, discipleship, and other areas of church life. By doing so, the church becomes a more inclusive and welcoming community for all believers, regardless of their marital status.

Singleness is not a season to be endured or rushed through. Instead, it is a time for personal growth, spiritual development, and devoted service to God. Churches that embrace this perspective will not only help singles feel more connected but will also see growth in.

Sermon Outline

Primary Text: 1 Corinthians 7:7

  1. Introduction:
    • Discuss how marriage is often seen as the “finish line” for many Christians, but Paul offers a different perspective.
    • Singleness is a gift, not a problem to be solved.
  2. Point 1: Singleness is a Gift
    • In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul teaches that singleness allows for undivided devotion to the Lord.
    • Singleness is not a “waiting period” but an opportunity to fully serve God without the responsibilities that come with marriage.
  3. Point 2: Examples of Singleness in the Bible
    • Jesus, Paul, and others in the Bible lived fruitful, God-honoring lives as single adults.
    • These individuals didn’t just exist in the background; they were leaders and examples to follow.
  4. Point 3: The Church’s Role in Supporting Singles
    • The church must value singles as much as it values married couples.
    • Practical steps: Include singles in leadership, create programs that cater to singles, and intentionally build community.

Conclusion:
Singleness is not a stage to be rushed through, but a season—or even a lifetime—of great purpose. Singles have a unique and valuable contribution to make in the kingdom of God.

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